SOLUTIONS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
MEDIATION & CONSULTATION
This is one of the things we do best.
My approach is solution focused so that we clearly understand your concerns
and then support you in developing a clear and realistic plan.
Goals for change are developed and where appropriate, homework assignments are suggested to assist individuals, couples and families to try out new and more effective solutions. Advice, feedback and practical suggestions by the counsellor give you an objective and professional perspective on their concerns.
My approach not only helps to improve communication
but also uncovers the root causes of conflicts.
Bob Finlay has 48 years experience as a Registered Family Therapist, over 25 years experience as a Certified Family Mediator and 11 years as a Parenting Coordinator.
WE WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU
SEPARATION & DIVORCE
Separation and Divorce is stressful for both adults and children. The separation process can take months and sometimes years to complete as family members work their way through all the emotional and financial adjustments. Mediation provides a safe and confidential setting to discuss all of the decisions that need to be made in dissolving the relationship. Mediation is different from counselling because the focus is primarily on dealing with the practical realities of the separation as opposed to people’s emotions and personal reactions.
Each mediation meeting has an agenda much like a business meeting. The development of a parenting plan and the division of assets are the main goals of mediation. Mediation is cost effective because the partners can negotiate the terms of a settlement with minimal use of lawyers. The mediator facilitates, provides guidance and information and arranges for a lawyer to draw up any required legal documents. Most settlements can be completed in 4 to 6 meetings.
The Division of Assets involves negotiations on such issues as spousal support, the matrimonial home, assets such as vehicles, other property, household items, pensions and RRSP’S, investments, and businesses. Clients will be asked to provide proof of income, to get assets valued and to prepare a financial statement. Full and honest disclosure is expected of both parties.
We can provide referrals to financial specialists if needed for advice.
SESSIONS $400 / HOUR
Legal Aid Referrals accepted.
PARTNERSHIPS & WORKPLACE
Our work for most of us takes up a major portion of our time. If our workplace is stressful because of conflict with managers and/or co-workers, then the workplace can be vulnerable to a lack of productivity, low morale, increased rates of absenteeism,sick leave, and staff turnover. Our workplace mediation services are designed to assist workplaces suffering from internal and unresolved conflict by first providing a thorough assessment and recommendations to resolve the conflicts. Managers and employees directly affected by the conflict are encouraged to participate in a mediation process. The mediator meets with each of the parties in a pre-mediation meeting to learn about their goals and prepare them for the mediation.
Joint meetings are held until the conflict is resolved, an agreement is then written up by the mediator and management are encouraged to approve and support the plan.
Workplaces can seek assistance for a variety of reasons. Examples include conflicts that result in arguments between staff, allegations of harassment and mistreatment, staff going on sick leave that is stress induced by the workplace, and an atmosphere characterized by negative gossip and complaints. Workplaces may want to include team building as part of the resolution process. Our team building services include identifying team strengths and areas for improvement, designing a group program for the team that promotes team cohesion and facilitating the team sessions.
SESSIONS $250 / HOUR
Legal Aid Referrals accepted.
Family owned and operated businesses are becoming more common as self-employment becomes more and more attractive as a means to earn a living. Family businesses have a number of advantages such as providing employment for family, keeping income in the family, income splitting, and providing a sense of a common purpose for the family. However, when family relationships become strained due to personal or work conflicts, the business can also suffer. Family businesses are vulnerable to relationship conflicts because of loyalty issues, jealousy, competitiveness and alliances that exclude some family members. The boundaries between the personal and business relationships can become blurred and start to negatively affect the business. A marital separation between the founders and owners of the business can be devastating to the business unless it is managed effectively.
Family members directly affected by the conflict are encouraged to participate in a mediation process. The mediator meets with each of the parties in a pre-mediation meeting to learn about their goals and prepare them for the mediation. Joint meetings are held until the conflict is resolved, an agreement is then written up by the mediator and if necessary, arrangements are made to have a lawyer draw up legal documentation.
SESSIONS $250 / HOUR