Mediation 2019-05-20T20:25:45-07:00

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MEDIATION & CONSULTATION
This is one of the things we do best.

My approach is solution focused so that you are helped to understand your concerns and then to
support in developing a plan for resolving them that is practical and realistic.

Goals for change are developed and where appropriate, homework assignments are suggested to assist couples to try out new and more effective solutions. Advice, feedback and practical suggestions by the counsellor give you an objective and professional perspective on their concerns.

My approach not only helps to improve communication but also uncovers the root causes of conflicts.

Bob Finlay has 47 years experience as a Registered Family Therapist, over 25 years experience
as a Certified Family Mediator and 10 years as a Parenting Coordinator.

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SUPPORT & DIVORCE

Separation and Divorce is stressful for both adults and children. The separation process can take months and sometimes years to complete as family members work their way through all the emotional and financial adjustments. Mediation provides a safe and confidential setting to discuss all of the decisions that need to be made in dissolving the relationship. Mediation is different from counselling because the focus is primarily on dealing with the practical realities of the separation as opposed to people’s emotions and personal reactions.

Each mediation meeting has an agenda much like a business meeting. The development of a parenting plan and the division of assets are the main goals of mediation. Mediation is cost effective because the partners can negotiate the terms of a settlement with minimal use of lawyers. The mediator facilitates, provides guidance and information and arranges for a lawyer to draw up any required legal documents. Most settlements can be completed in 4 to 6 meetings.

The Division of Assets involves negotiations on such issues as spousal support, the matrimonial home, assets such as vehicles, other property, household items, pensions and RRSP’S, investments, and businesses. Clients will be asked to provide proof of income, to get assets valued and to prepare a financial statement. Full and honest disclosure is expected of both parties. Referrals to a financial specialists for complex advice.

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SESSIONS $250 / HOUR

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PARTNERSHIP & WORKPLACE

Our work for most of us takes up a major portion of our time. If our worksplace is stressful because of conflict with managers and/or co-workers, then the workplace can be vulnerable to a lack of productivity, low morale, increased rates of absenteeism,sick leave, and staff turnover. Our workplace mediation services are designed to assist workplaces suffering from internal and unresolved conflict by first providing a thorough assessment and recommendations to resolve the conflicts. Managers and employees directly affected by the conflict are encouraged to participate in a mediation process. The mediator meets with each of the parties in a pre-mediation meeting to learn about their goals and prepare them for the mediation.

Joint meetings are held until the conflict is resolved, an agreement is then written up by the mediator and management are encouraged to approve and support the plan.

Workplaces can seek assistance for a variety of reasons. Examples include conflicts that result in arguments between staff, allegations of harassment and mistreatment, staff going on sick leave that is stress induced by the workplace, and an atmosphere characterized by negative gossip and complaints. Workplaces may want to include team building as part of the resolution process. Our team building services include identifying team strengths and areas for improvement, designing a group program for the team that promotes team cohesion and facilitating the team sessions.

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SESSIONS $250 / HOUR

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FAMILY BUSINESSES

Family owned and operated businesses are becoming more common as self-employment becomes more and more attractive as a means to earn a living. Family businesses have a number of advantages such as providing employment for family, keeping income in the family, income splitting, and providing a sense of a common purpose for the family. However, when family relationships become strained due to personal or work conflicts, the business can also suffer. Family businesses are vulnerable to relationship conflicts because of loyalty issues, jealousy, competitiveness and alliances that exclude some family members. The boundaries between the personal and business relationships can become blurred and start to negatively affect the business. A marital separation between the founders and owners of the business can be devastating to the business unless it is managed effectively.

Family members directly affected by the conflict are encouraged to participate in a mediation process. The mediator meets with each of the parties in a pre-mediation meeting to learn about their goals and prepare them for the mediation. Joint meetings are held until the conflict is resolved, an agreement is then written up by the mediator and if necessary, arrangements are made to have a lawyer draw up legal documentation.

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SESSIONS $250 / HOUR

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EXTENDED FAMILY

Our extended family members can play a significant or alternatively a minimal role in our lives. This often depends on our family history, our culture and how closely attached we are to them. Grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles, cousins and siblings comprise our extended family. Extended family can have a supportive and loving place in our lives, they also can create painful conflict, interfere in our primary love relationship and become a positive or negative influence in our children’s lives. A spouse for example can feel caught in the middle between an extended family member and a member of their immediate family. Special occasions such as Christmas become filled with tension and may even be avoided. Alliances can develop where family members take sides and a split develops in the extended family. Children may also be drawn into the conflicts as they are encouraged to take sides.

Family members directly affected by the conflict can be encouraged to participate in a mediation process. The mediator meets with each of the family members in a pre-mediation meeting to learn about their goals and prepare them for the mediation. Joint meetings are held until the conflict is resolved. Successful resolution of the conflicts results in a reduction of tension and more harmonious relationships.

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SESSIONS $250 / HOUR

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