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My approach is solution focused so that you are helped to understand your concerns and then to support in developing a plan for resolving them that is practical and realistic.
Goals for change are developed and where appropriate, homework assignments are suggested to assist couples to try out new and more effective solutions. Advice, feedback and practical suggestions by the counsellor give you an objective and professional perspective on their concerns. My approach not only helps to improve communication but also uncovers the root causes of conflicts.
Bob Finlay has 47 years experience as a Registered Family Therapist, over 25 years experience as a Certified Family Mediator and 10 years as a Parenting Coordinator.
For an appointment, please call his cell at 604-780-7945.
The following are examples of concerns that can be addressed in couples counselling.
Arguing and Unproductive Conflicts
Disconnection / Distancing
Falling Out Of Love
Depression / Anxiety
Separation / Divorce
Blended Family Conflicts
Extended Family Conflicts
Anger Explosions / Physical and Verbal Abuse
Sexual Issues, Dysfunction, Differences in Desire, Lack of Sex.
Addictions (alcohol, drugs, internet, video games, pornography, food, gambling, infidelity)
A healthy family is one of your most important assets! Without it, you and your partner and children are not only stressed but also are more vulnerable to mental and physical disease. In a family, each member’s feelings and behavior affects all other members. Families constitute networks of relationships and interactions which evolve into patterns of behavior that at times become problematic.
My Family Counselling services for adults and children whether living together or apart gives family members the opportunity to explore sensitive concerns and issues together within the safety of a confidential counselling setting. Children are encouraged to attend the sessions as they can communicate their opinions and feelings and help to find solutions.
The following are examples of concerns that can be addressed in family counselling.
Blended / Extended Family Conflicts
Arguing and Unproductive Conflicts
Physical and Verbal Abuse
Addictions affecting the Family (alcohol, drugs, internet, video games, pornography, food, gambling, infidelity)
My Individual Counselling services for adults, teens and children gives you the opportunity to explore individual issues, feelings and concerns within the safety of a confidential counselling relationship.
Adults can come for individual counselling for a variety of reasons. Examples include feeling anger, anxious or depressed, feeling confused or stressed over a relationship, going through a transition, the loss of a loved one, lacking direction in one’s life, an addiction or habit that is interfering and so on. You can seek a consultation whenever you want a new direction and aren’t sure how to initiate change in your life.
Teens sometimes request individual counselling, however more often, their parents bring them to counselling because of problems with behavior at home, school or with friends. Teens are vulnerable to feelings of anxiety and depression because of the pressures on them and their stage of development. They often want the privacy of individual counselling as this helps them to feel more independent. At the same time, involving teens in family counselling is recommended when rules and limits need to be negotiated or when communication with the family has broken down.
Children 12 years and under can also benefit from individual counselling combined with family counselling. Children’s concerns can range from school difficulties, peer relationships, behavior problems, anxiety and depression, adjustment to separation and divorce as well as many other issues. If your child’s behavior has changed in a negative way or they seem to be feeling depressed or anxious, a consultation will help parents to understand their child’s behavior and how to help them.